Communication is everything
Angel
Do you think you're a good communicator?
Years ago I did a seminar in Aspen with Tony Robbins and the subject for one day was communication. He asked everyone in the room to pair up with a partner and write down ten words that we associated with the word "sex." Now everyone knows what it means when someone says, "let's have sex," right?
At the end of 10 minutes, he had us compare our list of ten words with our partner's list. Then Tony asked how many teams of two had the same words on their lists for "sex." In the whole room, only 2 teams had 2 words alike (only four people out of approximately 500) and in surveying the rest of the room individually, no 2 people had even 5 words alike on our lists.
One lady, raised on a farm, had the word "pigs" on her list that she associated with "sex." Imagine her significant other asking her for "hot" sex while she's thinking "pigs."
Communication is a challenge. We can never assume that we are making ourselves clear. Assume only means making an "ASS of U and ME."
So if your'e feeling misunderstood or not getting the "love" you want, there may be a good reason. It could all be in your definition of "sex."
Check back later for my definition of TRANSFORMATION. Monday is the big day for the start of mine!
Happy communicating....
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July 2008 
Hi Angel! you blogged about this! cool! :-)
it's such a great story; and just highlights the dangers in assuming what you say is being receved as you fully intend. Hence the importance of eye contact and physical presence to 'really' deliver a verbal message. The dangers of email are well-documented (I'm sure we can dredge up tons of 'classic' faux pas emails; where something was intended one way, but came out another, or hilarious typos, etc.
communication is an art.
love and light, w7
And if you're not getting the “sex” you want, it could be your definition of “love”. :)
So, true, Marmalade. So, true….
W7 - body language, eye contact, tone of voice - being congruent is a huge part of getting the message across, isn't it? I think that's why some of the great leaders of the world have been able to inspire millions. It wasn't their words as much as the inflection, tone of voice, and conviction that inspired people to believe what they said. Ronald Reagan was known as the “great communicator.” I remember his polished delivery but never heard much substance in his words. Yet, he seemed to inspire many (not me particularly, but he was a masterful orator.)
Which leads me to the question: Is the pen mightier than the spoken word or vice versa?
Fun to muse, isn't it?'